To do a first look or NOT to do a first look... that seems to be the question on a lot of brides' minds these days. There are some HUGE benefits to it, although not doing it also has some added value...No “First Look”:
The Positive Side:
As a wedding photographer, there are a few things that are on the very top of my list of priorities. #1: Professionalism at all times. #2: This is YOUR day, I’m documenting it the best that I am capable. #3: Get the best pictures in the best light possible. #3 can actually work in your benefit for after ceremony photos of you as a newly married couple, and here’s how: Mid-afternoon ceremonies mean noontime first looks, usually. This does not bode well for the soft shaded light if there isn’t any shade around…. so waiting until after the ceremony to do these sorts of photos would actually be better, as far as light is concerned.
With #2 also being a factor… it is important to remember that this IS your day. I have recommendations as to what I think will look best, but ultimately, if you don’t want to see each other before the wedding, then that’s fine and we will rock the photos no matter what!
Another benefit is possibility of “that” look with your groom (you've seen the ones similar to the one above with the sweet teary groom awaiting his bride...). There is truly something special in this moment (but remember… don’t expect to get a lot of waterworks if your guy isn’t outwardly emotional anyway, or this could result in some disappointment).
The Negative Side:
Time. That is the big factor in this situation. And the patience of your guests. Taking all of the photos of family, whole bridal party and bride/groom will take some time… like an hour on the conservative side. But usually full guests are happy guests… so give them an appetizer hour and a comfy place to hang out, and they should usually be fine. It’s important not to feel rushed during the photos that you are paying me to capture, or your face will show all over them. A relaxed bride is a beautiful bride, and nothing says stressed like feeling that you need to hurry.
Having a “First Look”:
The Positive Side:
Seeing each other in a moment that was built just for that, helps the keep the stress level of the day down to a minimum, as usually seeing the love-of-your-life tends to calm you down. Having a true moment to really take in what each other looks like in their best attire, being able to kiss, hug and hold each other on this most special of days is a magical thing.
Another, not so romantic, feature of a first look is that it keeps time on our side. We are able to ‘front load’ the day with every possible photo that you’d like to capture (in various locations, if you wish!). This provides you with the capability to go straight from your ceremony into your reception, greet your guests and enjoy their company.
The Negative Side:
There isn’t one. Ok, just kidding… One negative is that it’s not the traditional thing to do. The other negative is that sometimes there are a lot of people around during a first look, ruining the opportunity for a private moment together (yet something that can be totally avoided, if you wish!).
No matter which way you choose, I see both sides of the situation and I won’t judge you and it won’t hurt my feelings either way. It’s your day, and I am there as your cheerleader, your support, and the person who makes you feel great about your wedding day… capturing it the way that you choose to have it!